Services Provided

Forensic NeuroPsychologist

Therapy dog available

Total Business Coaching

Pilot Stress

Addiction and Substance Abuse Treatment

Relationship Coaching

Spiritual Psychology

Grief coaching

Trauma victims

Veteran issues

Social anxiety

Examples of Real World Coaching Senarios


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Business Coaching

Why are People Hiring Life Coaches?

Link to Business Goal Questionnaire

Link to Real World Life Coaching Scenarios

It's lonely at the top. For this reason, perhaps no one can benefit more from the services of a qualified coach than a business owner. As a successful business owner and entrepreneur myself, I can collaborate with you to design ways of getting more out of your business for you!

Example of Professional Performance Coaching in Practice

Some Questions for you....

1. Where do you want your business to be one year from now? Three? Five?
2. What are the 3 biggest challenges you are facing right now? Can you see ways coaching
could improve matters?
3. If you had more time in your day, what new source of revenue would you
focus on? Can you see how a coach can help?
4. If you used a business coach to stay focused, what are the chances that you'd make
more money?
5. What to you is the most important change you want to make in how you run
your business?
6. What's getting in the way of the success you know is possible in your
business?
7. Are you leaving opportunities on the table because you're too busy
running your business?
8. Is your business getting in the way of your personal and family life? Can working with a
coach help here?
9. What is the obvious next step for your business?
10. Is your business ready to sell today, should you want to?

Hiring Dr. Desiree Jabin, Psy.D., a skilled business coach, for business coaching services can make a huge contribution to your success!

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Pilot Stress

A. Flying Fitness- A pilot’s ability to correctly perceive and appropriately respond to stress

Flying fitness is not just a physical condition. It has a definite meaning in the psychological sense as well. It involves the ability of the pilot to perceive, think and act to the best of his or her ability without the hindering effects of being overly anxious.

Studies have shown that emotional factors are repeatedly present incontribute to airplane accidents. The ability to think clearly and act decisively is greatly influenced by a pilot’s perceptions and emotions. It has been shown through research that pilots will panic earlier than "normal" if he or she is suffering from fatigue, illness, worry or anger. Stress seriously impairs good judgement, the best of inmtentions and even years of experience and documented flight hours.

B. Three categorical distinctions of contributing factors to stress inside the cockpit are the following: (1) physical, (2) physiological, and (3) psychological

Physical stressors include extreme temperature and humidity, noise, vibration, and lack of oxygen.
Physiological stressors include fatigue, poor physical condition, hunger, and disease.
Psychological stressors relate to emotional factors such as a death or illness in the family, business worries, poor interpersonal relationships with family or boss, financial worries, etc.

C. Pilots should not be in the cockpit when:

Drunk, stoned or high.
Emotional stress is too immediately overwhelming
Distracted to a fault and unable to concentrate

Experiencing Cockpit Stress:

Stress is, in effect, generated by the task itself and is not always negative. Inevitably, stress levels do build up in the airplane cockpit, when there are a multitude of decisions to make and tasks to perform.
The sympathetic nervous system responds to stress and provides us with the resources to cope with the new sudden demands. However, the stress load may easily become unmanageable and a pilot needs to take measures to contain stress, experience it as useful and helpful so as to gain mastery over it. Through coaching, I teach pilots how to reduce or prevent in advance those stressors that put lives in jeopardy.

As a coach I have helped many pilots manage career threatening stressors.

D. Anxiety is normal but Panic is to be avoided

Pilots understand there are many things that can happen in the air that cause fear and anxiety. These are normal reactions to a predicament that is out of the ordinary. In fact, most of my pilot clients are self described “adrenaline junkies.” That is fine. Stress and anxiety become a detriment if the pilot experiences the increased adrenaline and cortisol as "a bad thing." Stress and anxiety can turn deadly when the pilot is unable to gain mastery over these feelings. I can help pilots gain control and mastery over their mind while flying.

Further, what is to be avoided by pilots is allowing normal anxiety (which some pilots even admit to enjoying) to progress to panic while flying. This is best accomplished proactively with visualization techniques, relaxation and “centeredness improving” exercises, and active coaching sessions with me, Dr. Jabin.

Panic disregards intellectual exercises, advanced degrees, all reason and learned responses. Indeed, a feeling of extreme helplessness can instantaneously consume such efforts. A pilot in the grip of panic will freeze at the controls, may initiate a totally wrong response or succumb to completely irrational action.
Fatigue, hangover, emotional stress, chronic worry, and illness, coalesce to lower the threshold levels of anxiety an individual pilot can withstand before succumbing to panic. Panic is an unwanted, seemingly uncontrollable, physical and mental response to being overwhelmed in the moment. Panic decreases the pilots self-confidence, clarity, ability to respond timely and appropriately, and stay safe while flying.

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Relationship Coaching

Relationship coaching

Marriage coaching

Co-parenting coaching for divorced couples

Follow this link for more information about personal issue and growth coaching.

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Spiritual Psychology

Spiritual psychology often proposes alternative spiritual perspectives as a way of delving deeper and getting to the source of troubling issues. These alternative perspectives include a wide number of spiritual concepts and experiences that take us out of our normal way of perceiving. These experiences might involve non-ordinary states of consciousness during which my clients might have “ah-ha” moments, engage in conversations with their higher selves – an aspect of their souls – or have other transcendent experiences that change their understanding in a profound way. Transcendent experiences put us on the path to self-realization as we become more aware of the non-physical aspect of “self.”

The path of evolving consciousness Human spirituality is as diverse as humanity itself. Yet, despite the many variables, the structure of spiritual psychology provides a process and structure that enables clients to cogently consider their many – often conflicting - thoughts and beliefs. Sometimes this happens within the patient's own religious tradition, but often it leads to entirely new paths. Spiritual psychology often proposes alternative spiritual perspectives as a way of delving deeper and getting to the source of troubling issues. These alternative perspectives include a wide number of spiritual concepts and experiences that take us out of our normal way of perceiving. These experiences might involve non-ordinary states of consciousness during which clients might have “ah-ha” moments, engage in conversations with their higher selves – an aspect of their souls – or have other transcendent experiences that change their understanding in a profound way. Transcendent experiences put us on the path to self-realization as we become more aware of the non-physical aspect of “self.” Spiritual psychologists believe that as individuals evolve and increasingly identify with their souls, they begin to realize that uniting with the soul is the purpose of their journey. They start to understand “non-duality” - the end of feeling separate and alone – and the beginning of feeling one with God, the Creator, or the Universe.



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Addiction and Substance Abuse Treatment

What therapy approach(es) do you utilize? What issues do you specify treatment for?
First of all, my approach to the client is radically different from a typical therapist using psychotherapy on a client. I see the client as a whole person. I do not see the client as a person who needs to be labeled. I focus on the behaviors that are not working for my clients. Behaviors that the client needs relief from in order to live the life they want to live – this can mean freedom from alcohol, prescription medication or illegal drugs. I work with my clients to co-design the life they want that is cut off momentarily due to obstacles like addiction, anger, “acting-out” or harmful behavior. My clients function as active participants who utilize my expert knowledge as a doctor of psychology and certified life coach to move away from “stuck-ness” and dysfunction and to boldly step into a life worth claiming. I personalize an approach for every individual based on his or her specific needs, fears, wants, and goals.

How does one know if therapy is right for them?
If a client is in therapy for years and things are not getting better than therapy – as they are doing it with their therapist of record – is NOT working. My clients and I begin to outline goals that guarantee results. Measurable goals are important for the very reason that therapy often fails clients. By setting goals, priorities and being flexible to change, my clients and I work closely together to make sure that we are getting the promised or hoped for results in a timeframe that we predict for. I am accountable to my clients this way. My clients see measurable, meaningful, and observable goals between sessions. I give them homework so that they can come back to the next session and we can dig in with enthusiasm and set new goals – or, if necessary, go back to the drawing board and try something new. My clients are always in purposeful motion, living lives with focus and purpose. The self-esteem that comes from this emboldens them to take it up a notch and live more boldly and presently – meaning mindful of the moment, neither depressed about past events or anxious about the future.

What can one expect to gain from therapy?
Expect a brand new lease on life. I will do anything for my clients who work as hard as I do to change, grow and thrive. My clients inspire me and I feel an equally compelling desire to inspire my clients. We are a team. Their success is my success. I show them the path and they become trailblazers in their own right.

What is unique about you as a therapist?
I am the anti-therapist. I don’t want to waste time talking about childhood, someone’s mother or father, or what happened in second grade. I want to teach my clients how to embrace their past in a way that welcomes a bright future. No one has made any mistake too big that they can’t learn from it and help others. If you can help another person go through the similar thing or avoid similar things then you owe it to yourself to find your rightful place in the world carrying that message. You are stronger than you think. I encourage my clients to get off the couch and LIVE. Self-esteem doesn’t come from hashing over the past or worrying about tomorrow. Self-esteem and grace come from interpersonal connections that are authentic. I want to see my clients lead multi-dimensional lives that touch others. We do spiritual work together so it exceeds the realm of regular “talk-therapy.” If my clients want to meditate on the beach, walk on the beach, or watch airplanes take-off and land then that’s what we do. I model friendship, forgiveness, acceptance, loyalty, and healthful living. If that isn’t enough, I also text message my clients, have sessions online or over the phone.

What relationship exists between mental health and substance abuse?
Addiction does not discriminate between those with diagnosable mental disorders and those lucky enough to be mental-disorder free. Addiction is a spiritual disease, an obsession of the mind (for which there is no label), and a craving of the physical body. That being said, it is foolish to isolate the component parts in search for the “cause.” The whole person must be treated. A twelve step program is the best and only proven way an addict or alcoholic can stay sober.

Dr. Desiree Jabin, Psy. D. is a Certified Holistic Health Practitioner and Certified Alternative Medicine Practitioner in Carlsbad, California. For more information, please call (760) 331-3035.


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